Losing a pet is one of the most heartbreaking experiences we can go through. For many of us, our animals aren’t just pets — they’re family. They’ve been there through the highs and lows, offering unconditional love and companionship. And when they leave us, the grief can feel just as intense as losing a human loved one.
Yet, pet loss is often considered a “disenfranchised” grief — a term experts use to describe grief that isn’t always acknowledged by society. But make no mistake: the emotions you’re feeling are completely real, valid, and worthy of compassion.
So how do you begin to heal when your beloved companion crosses the Rainbow Bridge?
We turned to pet grief counselor Beth Bigler, who shared some thoughtful ways to honor your emotions and begin the healing process.
1. Create a Ritual of Connection
Place a photo of your pet near your door or somewhere you pass frequently. When you come home, say hello. Greet them just like you used to — yes, even give them a little imaginary nose boop if it brings you comfort. Rituals like these can help you maintain a sense of connection and keep their memory alive in your everyday life.
2. Acknowledge the Empty Spaces
It’s normal to glance at your pet’s favorite spot on the couch and feel a wave of sadness. Instead of turning away, go to that space. Pat the cushion. Say something like, “I love you, Sweetie. I’m thinking of you.” Speaking your feelings aloud helps process the pain and validates the love you still carry.
3. Trust Your Gut
Grief looks different for everyone. You may feel like going for a walk, writing in a journal, making a photo album, or simply sitting in silence. Follow your instincts on what feels right for you. There’s no “correct” way to mourn, and no timeline you need to follow.
4. Let It Out
Don’t be afraid to vocalize your grief. Cry. Scream. Talk to your pet as if they’re still there. Join a pet loss support group. Speak with a therapist. Whether you process out loud or in private, expressing your pain is essential for healing.
5. Release the Guilt
One of the hardest parts of losing a pet — especially when you’ve had to make a difficult medical decision — is grappling with guilt. But as experts remind us, it’s better to let your pet go a week too early than a week too late. They trust us to ease their suffering when the time comes, and making that choice is an act of love, not failure.
In Loving Memory
Grieving a pet is not something you just “get over.” But with time, care, and compassion for yourself, it does get softer. And while your companion may no longer be physically by your side, the love you shared will always remain.
So go ahead — say their name, keep their picture close, and know that it’s okay to miss them deeply.
Because they weren’t “just a pet.”
They were yours.
Source: Today
